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For some couples, communication is just about occasionally talking romantically or regularly just casually sharing work talks. It’s beyond that. 65% of the couples, according to the 2013 survey, cited communication breakdown as the main cause of their divorce.  Up to 94% of couples mention that their relationship is unhappy just because of poor communication. By communicating correctly, you can…

According to the reports, 90% of adults in serious relationships, like marriage, argue with their partners at least occasionally. Arguments are a part of a relationship as both persons involved come from different backgrounds, have different upbringings, and have different interests. It’s not the argument that is bad, but how it’s handled in the marriage.  A destructive argument can erode…

-Josh Hemingway, CPC, BCMMHC. Timothy Keller once wrote,“Marriage is not about finding someone who completes you; it is about two complete people coming together to serve one another in love.” That one sentence captures something many couples spend years trying to figure out. Marriage was never meant to erase who you are. It was meant to bring two whole people…

A Story of Healing, Humility, and Unbreakable Love in Coeur d’Alene Six years into their marriage, Caleb and Emma sat in their driveway in Coeur d’Alene, Idaho, engine off, neither of them moving. It had just snowed and made that kind of North Idaho snowfall we all love that makes everything look peaceful – rooftops dusted white, pine trees standing…

– Matthew W. Rowe, Ph.D., CPC, BCMMHC. When my wife and I got married, we became “one flesh.” What no one explained was whether that meant one checking account too. Few topics spark intense debates among married couples like money. Should everything go into one big holy pot of unity? Or should each spouse maintain their own account in the…

Financial planning in marriage is important for fair spending, long-term goals, managing debts, and emergencies. However, according to a survey by Empower done back in 2023, only 54% of people discuss finances with their spouse, while the remaining 46% never even bother talking about it.  When finances aren’t discussed, and the earnings of each spouse differ, it leads to big…

Hard talks like breakups, boundaries, or disagreements are always difficult. They become even harder with someone closer, like your spouse. Your life partners may misunderstand you and get hurt. Avoiding these talks isn’t the solution, as grudges can build up and strain the relationship. This leads us to a question: how to have hard conversations without hurting each other? Take…

Unhealed childhood trauma in marriage can lead to depression, anxiety, anxious attachments, and avoidant attachments while also lowering the quality of adult relationships. It can take away the beauty of your marriage and make ordinary situations feel offensive or hurtful, even when those situations are only imagined or have not happened yet. You start to misinterpret your partner and associate…

What the couples do every day and their habits, determine if they’re going to stay in the relationship forever. By thoughtfully adopting positive daily habits and letting go of negative ones to meet each other’s needs, the marriage can last decades. Let’s learn now about the 5 daily habits of couples who stay in love for life, so you can…

-Matthew Rowe, Ph.D., CPC, BCMHC  Somewhere between untangling Christmas lights that absolutely were not tangled last year and  stepping on a Lego in the dark at 2:00 a.m., it hits us again… Christmas is here. With Christmas  comes the familiar mix of joy, chaos, sugar cookies, missing pieces, loud laughter, awkward  silences, and that one relative who insists Die Hard…