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Sometimes a marriage becomes unsuccessful not because of a bad spouse, but a bad habit destroys it. Being a partner, we have certain habits that slowly deteriorate a relationship. Ignoring your partners, making wrong assumptions, and comparing them with others are a few examples of such low points that can break a marriage. If your…

In every relationship, there are circumstances where you need to discuss difficult things with your partner. The same goes for marriages. You won’t always have smooth conversations. So when you need to speak some hard or bitter truths, focus on words and strategies that don’t hurt your spouse. If you are in the same boat…

For some couples, communication is just about occasionally talking romantically or regularly just casually sharing work talks. It’s beyond that. 65% of the couples, according to the 2013 survey, cited communication breakdown as the main cause of their divorce.  Up to 94% of couples mention that their relationship is unhappy just because of poor communication.…

According to the reports, 90% of adults in serious relationships, like marriage, argue with their partners at least occasionally. Arguments are a part of a relationship as both persons involved come from different backgrounds, have different upbringings, and have different interests. It’s not the argument that is bad, but how it’s handled in the marriage. …

-Josh Hemingway, CPC, BCMMHC. Timothy Keller once wrote,“Marriage is not about finding someone who completes you; it is about two complete people coming together to serve one another in love.” That one sentence captures something many couples spend years trying to figure out. Marriage was never meant to erase who you are. It was meant…

A Story of Healing, Humility, and Unbreakable Love in Coeur d’Alene Six years into their marriage, Caleb and Emma sat in their driveway in Coeur d’Alene, Idaho, engine off, neither of them moving. It had just snowed and made that kind of North Idaho snowfall we all love that makes everything look peaceful – rooftops…

– Matthew W. Rowe, Ph.D., CPC, BCMMHC. When my wife and I got married, we became “one flesh.” What no one explained was whether that meant one checking account too. Few topics spark intense debates among married couples like money. Should everything go into one big holy pot of unity? Or should each spouse maintain…

Financial planning in marriage is important for fair spending, long-term goals, managing debts, and emergencies. However, according to a survey by Empower done back in 2023, only 54% of people discuss finances with their spouse, while the remaining 46% never even bother talking about it.  When finances aren’t discussed, and the earnings of each spouse…

Hard talks like breakups, boundaries, or disagreements are always difficult. They become even harder with someone closer, like your spouse. Your life partners may misunderstand you and get hurt. Avoiding these talks isn’t the solution, as grudges can build up and strain the relationship. This leads us to a question: how to have hard conversations…

Unhealed childhood trauma in marriage can lead to depression, anxiety, anxious attachments, and avoidant attachments while also lowering the quality of adult relationships. It can take away the beauty of your marriage and make ordinary situations feel offensive or hurtful, even when those situations are only imagined or have not happened yet. You start to…