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-Matthew Rowe, Ph.D., CPC, BCMHC  Somewhere between untangling Christmas lights that absolutely were not tangled last year and  stepping on a Lego in the dark at 2:00 a.m., it hits us again… Christmas is here. With Christmas  comes the familiar mix of joy, chaos, sugar cookies, missing pieces, loud laughter, awkward  silences, and that one…

Matthew Rowe, Ph.D., CPC, BCMHC. Question from a LF3 Follower: “How do you heal a marriage when attempts at communication are met with defensiveness,  raised voices, and unresolved conflict—especially when your spouse won’t seek help and you’re  emotionally exhausted but still deeply in love?”  I Love My Husband, But I Can’t Keep Living Like This! …

– Jacob & Christie’s Love Factor Story From the outside, our life looked full and functional. We lived on Spokane’s South Hill, had two  beautiful kids (Hunter, our energetic 8-year-old who loves building anything with wheels, and  Megan, our sweet 5-year-old who never met a doll she didn’t immediately nurture). We went to  church. We…

Most of the couples with GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder) can’t perform normal activities with their spouses, such as open communication, intimacy, enjoying time together, or even discussing issues properly.  Marriage and anxiety can’t go hand in hand and may lead to communication breakdowns, arguments, disputes, distance, and even a lack of intimacy over time, which…

The first year of marriage is considered the hardest. The couples see each other’s true colors and the responsibilities of marriage, and finally realize there’s more to it than just romance. It’s hard to adjust, combine the finances and manage the family engagements.   Plus, you need to know how to overcome each of the challenges…

A strong marriage that has respect, love, time, and intimacy not only keeps you both happy but also your children. Being able to see their parents being nice to each other, assisting them in their school activities, hugging them, or even hugging each other without harsh words, they feel safe, loved, and at ease.  Their…

Every year, over 2 million people get married in the USA. The most overlooked part about getting married is building a strong foundation that strengthens your marriage. It guides you on how to tackle any upcoming issues that you may face after getting married, and how to resolve them.  In the US, approximately 45.2% of…

As Roberto Assagioli says, “Without forgiveness, life is governed by an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation.” Forgiving your spouse even when they don’t deserve it and causing deep damage that you still can’t forget or let go of, shows how strong you are and that you really want to make your marriage work. Forgiveness…

Teresa Pfaff CPC, BCMMHC. “I just can’t stop seeing that in my head.” Those were the words of a 13-year-old client I met with last week. She had been scrolling through TikTok, looking for a moment of escape—watching adorable cat videos to give her brain a break from the weight of homework. But that innocent scroll…

(A Real-Life Testimony of Hope, Healing, and Heart Connection) Rachel used to joke that her husband David could fix anything – cars, leaky sinks, broken fences – but not his socks-to-hamper aim. They were the couple everyone at church thought “had it together.” They lived in a cozy suburb just outside Seattle, with two little…